A process that validates your grief and helps you release the pain of your loss.
Matthew 5:4 TM You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you.
Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
Step 1: Get quiet and comfortable (breathe in and out a few times; remove all distractions)
Step 2: Ask the question: “Grief, will you come out and speak to me?” [write this in your journal]
Step 3: Gauge your resistance to this exercise on a scale of 1 (”no way”) to 10 (”so ready!”). [Write down your number]
Step 4: Answer the question: “Why do I need to do this exercise?” Eg) “So I can be fully healed.” “So I can get unstuck and help others.” Etc.
Step 5: Now ask the question again, “Grief, will you come out and speak to me?” [Write down everything grief says]
Step 6: After you feel complete, ask yourself, “What did I find surprising?” [Write down your answers]
Step 7: Once more ask the question, “Grief, will you come out and speak to me?” [Write down your answers]
Step 8: Now invite God to speak to you by asking, “God, is there anything you’d like to say to me right now?” [Write down what you hear him say]
Now close with a short prayer of thanks and commit your grief journey to Him.
[Adapted from the book, Second Firsts by Christina Rasmussen (pp. 59-60).]